I had the honor of co-leading 20 men a week ago. My goal was to reconnect them with the deepest source of their power, reawakening something deep in every man’s DNA. The power in the room was incredible after only 2 hours! I’ve seen it take a weekend to wake men up this much. We could have climbed Mt. Everest with the fire in our bellies. It wasn’t a pump-up, but a waking up. The difference between your power when you are asleep and awake. When asleep, you dream about flying, but you’ can’t really move. When you are awake, and empowered, you can built a plane and connect a whole globe in flying.
You see, after 50 years of men learning how to be emotional, which was a wonderful awakening, most men became too soft. I see it so often. It’s the pendulum swinging too far while we learn. He’s become a pretty good dad, sensitive to his lady, but can’t really handle work and women feel there’s just something missing. Life became a burden with all that access to emotions. Gone is the warrior spirit that would risk death in defense of what’s important or exploration of a great wilderness.
Women feel this so well. She either gets a macho jerk, who thinks being strong is going to war, OR a sensitive guy that is so nice he seems to be apologizing for being a man, even for other men. This is the ego-mind at work, causing duality, only two ways: 1) macho cold jerk or 2) soft metro-sexual man. But, duality isn’t real, it’s just made up by the human brain with split hemispheres.
I had to go on this journey myself. I spent years as a sensitive guy, but hiding from my strength. The fear in our culture is that if a man fully accesses that strength, he’ll become abusive or destructive. So boys get stuck growing up choosing between these two paths. Ever seen this?
The Essential Man discovers the end of this duality! He connects with his essence, his invincible spine. The warrior does what needs to be done, without thinking. Unafraid of death, so there’s nothing to think about. He also draws on his love for the world. Like the Samurai who was knew he was already dead AND loved the emperor and Japan deeply. The essence was simple! Fearless with a wide-open heart. This man is incredibly sexy to women! This is the man we rediscovered that Sunday morning. The man that valiantly serves his family, a rock, a lighthouse in the storm as a guiding light and sovereign for his community.
Are you ready to step up and be one of these men in the 21st Century? It starts with remembering your heritage. All those men that came before you that defended their territories with honor. It’s in your DNA.